It’s the call we never want to receive, but at some point you do. Maybe multiple times in your life.
And when it comes, you know it befire you pick up the phone. You know its bad news. Really bad news. And you wish that if you ignore it, things will stay the same. But you know you have to pick it up, and that your life will never be the same again.
We got one of these calls on Sat Aug 31st. My wife and I had gone to dinner. My wife’s mother was watching the kids and was going to sleep over. As soon as we ordered, the call came…it was my mother-in-law. Someone had beaten up my father in law at work and he was taken to the hospital.
So we canceled the food and rushed to the hospital.
As soon we go there we basically got the silent treatment from the staff. That’s when we knew things were bad. After waiting in the family room a doctor, nurse, and cop showed up.
My father in law was not beaten up. It was a robbery and he was shot. And he didn’t make it. Period. End of story. End of life.
Death is part of life, and there are many ways to die, but for the survivors, it still hurts. It still causes pain. As the word spread we had to deal with relatives coming, people dropping by to give their condolences, and even the media.
Without our friends, we would not have made it. We would not have know how to act or what to do. But thanks to our friends, they just came over, took charge and took care of everything. One family took the kids for one day, another took them for another day. One friend took care of all the food and arrangements from family flying in. Another handled the funeral. It was amazing.
As a severe introvert, I have never been one to keep in touch with people or to easily trust, but these people have my eternal gratitude.
Death can bring people closer together and is a reminder that all of our time here is limited. For some reason most of us have to be reminded of this over and over.
I am not sharing this with you for sympathy or pity. I am sharing this to remind you that life is short. Sometimes much shorter than we expect. No one even imagined that my fil would be gone. Heck his parents are in their 90s and still kicking. He had genetics on his side. But it didn’t matter.
Whatever you want in your life, there is no telling if you will be around tomorrow to make it happen. So stop putting things off. The people that you love, tell them today. The people that you hate, forgive them today and move on.
The thing that you have been putting of…start it today.
No more excuses – no more… I don’t have time, or money, or education….just take the first step right now, today and move towards your dreams.
My dream has been to start a foundation. But I keep putting it off. No more. I reached out to my mentor and we are starting it together. I will let him to all the work of organizing and running it, but I get a say in where the money goes which is all I want anyway.
They say that everything happens for the best. When you’re in pain that is really hard to see or believe.
But in the end, it doesn’t matter because we have to move on anyway. And live the best life we can.
So again, I say, whatever is holding you back…do something about it. Now, today.
Every day that you are alive is a day that must be lived. Live it to the fullest. No regrets.
I wish for you joy and peace, and may the odds be ever in your favor.